Belief Windows and How to Begin to Get Unstuck

Peace and blessings everyone.  How are y’all feeling today? Very well I hope.  I am thankful for the purpose that beats in you. 

I want us to meditate on a concept called Belief Windows.  I first learned this term from Hyrum Smith.  It is super important to cover because especially now since we know that in order for an area of our life to change you must change the thoughts protecting the current standards and behavior. 

If this is your first time joining me, I recommend that you start with episode one of the podcast to get a sense of the language that I use so that you can follow.  So, the concept of belief windows is just as it sounds.  We take a look at our belief systems dictating what we do.  In last week’s workshop we spoke about emotions and we learned how to direct our thoughts to influence our emotions.  By the way, if you missed the coaching call event where we discussed this, be sure to sign up with your email on the homepage to stay in the loop.  

Clients and I work to identify belief windows to best aid their self-discovery journey.  It is a conscious practice that allows them to begin to be able to make lasting positive change.  The best way to examine this concept is with an example.  One common belief window that many people have held and still hold is that monetary riches equates to evilness.  Without us judging this belief, let’s jump outside of ourselves and paint a picture to understand it.  

It may be understandable why so many have this belief window especially if they did not grow up with very much.  I and so many I know were probably introduced to this belief at a very young age.  Many of us have maybe held it as our own for so long that it became unconscious.  Just like any other belief, it could have been due to what we have seen or heard around the subject.  In this case, around the effects of big money or what rich people have done.  It could have been trickled down beliefs of our environment or friends and family that we attached to as well.  Societal beliefs of what rich people represent is not usually very positive depending on which side of the gate you are on.  Richness sometimes equates to greed and deception. Stemming from the belief that most wealthy people get their money from sources that exploit or take advantage of people and who wants to be linked to those things, right?      

So, what could be some behaviors that this belief window would cause? 

The person may not desire to make a living past what is “just enough” for fear of making “too much money.” 

The person may lack financial literacy because there was no perceived need to be great at it.

The person may self-sabotage their potential and finances to further prove that this belief is correct, that they are a good person and that their finances match that.  This being subconsciously of course. 

How much effort to make money do you think would be given if someone believes that “being rich equals bad”?  It is almost as if the person would hit a metaphorical window, or threshold if you will because they do not want to be associated with “being evil.”  Even examining our relationships, someone with this belief window that is actually doing well, might hide their monetary wealth from others for fear of judgement.  I mean, doesn’t the bible say that money is the root of all evil?  Or does it say the love of money is the root of all evil, which could take on a whole new meaning?  See what happened there?  That is an example of challenging a belief.  One might also challenge this belief by proving that there are people with good character that have generated their wealth by noble means.

The overall point is that this belief window dictates major decisions.  With something that has this much power over your behavior, it is worth taking a look at to make sure that you would like to continue to hold the belief or to change it into to one that may serve you better.

Wouldn’t you like to examine your own?  I love to work with clients on this because it is a super useful tool for getting “unstuck.”   

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I have been Coach Honey.

Peace

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Love.

Emotions

Emotions are clearly my favorite thing to talk about.  Emotions and their power drive every choice we make in our lives. 

Isn’t that deep?  In case you have not noticed by now and please do not feel bad if you haven’t…Every single thing that you do in your life is because you want to experience a certain feeling and probably avoid another.  You do everything because you are aiming for a feeling. 

When I was first introduced to this, it changed THE ENTIRE GAME for me.  I began to question EVERYTHING.  Why do I have this friend?  Why am I in a relationship with this particular guy?  Why did I leave that guy?  Why did I study this in school?  Why do I live here instead of there?  Why did I color my hair blonde?  Why do I avoid people with this personality trait and why do I cling to people with that trait?  Why won’t I tell this person no? Why am I working here?

Endless questions that have fueled my own journey of self-discovery and self-knowledge.

At some point, we have been introduced to the idea that emotions are messages. 

If you have not:

Welcome, love!  Have you met Emotions?? They are messages... 

They often can let you know or reinforce what is important to you.  For example, that sense of nervousness before a presentation might let you know that you care about delivering a message.  Your states of feeling give insight into what you are thinking because your thoughts are what actually cause them. 

You may not agree with that statement right away because sometimes it feels like our emotions creep up on us without any recollection of a thought.  But that is because the thought occurs so quickly that it can bypass our self-awareness…but it does occur first. 

Proving this to yourself might take some time but the purpose of discussing this is to show you how to receive less than obvious messages from your emotions.  To practice, consider the last time a strong feeling came upon you.  Ask yourself, what happened that triggered this feeling?  What was going on in your body?  Did you feel a slight increase in temperature?  Did you feel a sense of nervousness or a tingling sensation?  Did you feel a sense of lightness or did you feel lifted in your body as if weight was taken off? 

Write down the event and what was happening inside of your body.  After giving a description, being as detailed as possible, express what was going on in your mind.  If you work in this direction, it will help you uncover the thought that perpetuated these emotions.       

So, what am I getting at today?  If you can already see how your emotions drive your choices and especially your behavior you can begin to assess the areas of your life where you are presently stuck on making a decision or an area of your life where you would like to get different results.

Always remember, we want our values to align with our living as much as possible.  Again, values are not the standards that you say are important to you because they sound good, but are the relevant themes that are important to your soul and make you feel whole. 

Listen to your states of feeling.

Peace and Love,

Coach Honey            

 

A Note From Me To You During COVID-19

Peace and blessings to you!  I am grateful to be able to connect with you another day on this platform.  Thank you for being a listener or a reader. 

I hope you all are staying safe and trying to take it easy if applicable.  I am SO thankful for those on the front lines during this time.  From the hospitals to the stores to the schools and everyone in between I send my prayers and my love.  Everyone trying to keep their family together or simple just yourself, my heart is with you.  We have lost so many loved ones but gained angels that we will not forget.  Keep them in your heart always and focus on your favorite memories that bring that unmatched warm feeling.

With love always,

Coach Honey