Emotions are clearly my favorite thing to talk about. Emotions and their power drive every choice we make in our lives.
Isn’t that deep? In case you have not noticed by now and please do not feel bad if you haven’t…Every single thing that you do in your life is because you want to experience a certain feeling and probably avoid another. You do everything because you are aiming for a feeling.
When I was first introduced to this, it changed THE ENTIRE GAME for me. I began to question EVERYTHING. Why do I have this friend? Why am I in a relationship with this particular guy? Why did I leave that guy? Why did I study this in school? Why do I live here instead of there? Why did I color my hair blonde? Why do I avoid people with this personality trait and why do I cling to people with that trait? Why won’t I tell this person no? Why am I working here?
Endless questions that have fueled my own journey of self-discovery and self-knowledge.
At some point, we have been introduced to the idea that emotions are messages.
If you have not:
Welcome, love! Have you met Emotions?? They are messages...
They often can let you know or reinforce what is important to you. For example, that sense of nervousness before a presentation might let you know that you care about delivering a message. Your states of feeling give insight into what you are thinking because your thoughts are what actually cause them.
You may not agree with that statement right away because sometimes it feels like our emotions creep up on us without any recollection of a thought. But that is because the thought occurs so quickly that it can bypass our self-awareness…but it does occur first.
Proving this to yourself might take some time but the purpose of discussing this is to show you how to receive less than obvious messages from your emotions. To practice, consider the last time a strong feeling came upon you. Ask yourself, what happened that triggered this feeling? What was going on in your body? Did you feel a slight increase in temperature? Did you feel a sense of nervousness or a tingling sensation? Did you feel a sense of lightness or did you feel lifted in your body as if weight was taken off?
Write down the event and what was happening inside of your body. After giving a description, being as detailed as possible, express what was going on in your mind. If you work in this direction, it will help you uncover the thought that perpetuated these emotions.
So, what am I getting at today? If you can already see how your emotions drive your choices and especially your behavior you can begin to assess the areas of your life where you are presently stuck on making a decision or an area of your life where you would like to get different results.
Always remember, we want our values to align with our living as much as possible. Again, values are not the standards that you say are important to you because they sound good, but are the relevant themes that are important to your soul and make you feel whole.
Listen to your states of feeling.
Peace and Love,
Coach Honey